An elderly carpenter was ready to retire. He told his boss of his plans
to leave the house building business and live a more leisurely life with
his wife enjoying his extended family. He would miss the paycheck, but he
needed to retire. They could get by.
The contractor was sorry to see his good worker go and asked if he could
build just one more house as a personal favor. The carpenter said yes,
but in time it was easy to see that his heart was not in his work. He
resorted to shoddy workmanship and used inferior materials. It was an
unfortunate way to end a dedicated career.
When the carpenter finished his work, the employer came to inspect the
house. He handed the front-door key to the carpenter. “This is your
house”, he said, “my gift to you.”
The carpenter was shocked!! What a
shame! If he had only known he was building his own house, he would have
done it all so differently.
So it is with us. We build our lives, a day at a time, often putting
less than our best into the building. Then with a shock, we realize we
have to live in the house we have built… If we could do it over, we’d
do it much differently. But we cannot go back.
You are the carpenter of your life. Each day you hammer a nail, place a
board or erect a wall. “Life is a do-it-yourself project” someone said.
Your attitude and the choices you make today, build the “house” you live
in tomorrow. Build it wisely!!
I hate disappointing people which, I guess, is why I really hate being disappointed. I’m very upset right now. This blog has no meaning to it…just needed to write to make myself feel better. So disappointed right now. Whatever. I’m not even gonna bother with it right now. He’ll feel it later. He’ll regret that.
Sounding pretty evil right now. Eh. These things happen.
Don’t make me mad and the evil won’t reveal it’s head.
The world of twitter is going in on things black girls do. That’s cool.
What’s NOT cool is seeing brothas going in on things black girls do. Why is that not cool?
Because it seems like they have nothing nice to say. I understand. We all have grievances with each other. The problem is…they’re doing it in front of the whole world!
I kind of feel like it’s one of those things like your parents used to tell you: “What happens at home stays at home.” Any problems that black men have with black women should stay between us. Not broadcasted for the world to see. You know, you don’t want everybody to know that you’re having problems at home.
One thing I saw a lot of complaints about was how black girls don’t like seeing white girls with black guys. I can’t speak for all black women but for me, I don’t care if a black man dates a white lady, a black lady, an asian lady, an indian lady…you get the point, I don’t care, as long as they are genuinely interested in each other and it’s real.
I DO however care when it’s NOT real. What I mean by that is, when white girls/women date a black guy just because of what they can get out of it.
I don’t know why any guy would want to be in a relationship with a girl who is just using him for his status or for what she can get out of the relationship. I guess it just bothers me when white girls date black men and get on their knees and do whatever he ask them to do just because she is trying to get something out of it in the end.
I’m protective of black men. I want them to be happy with whoever that might be with. I don’t want them to be taken advantage of. I care about black men. Simple. It might not seem like it, but I do, and we (black women) do.
Lastly, black guys just love how white girls seem like they will lay everything down and do whatever their man ask them to do. But really..think about it, when do you do whatever somebody ask you to do? UHHH yeah, when you’re trying to get something from them. You know, maybe their money?
Anyway, black girls on the other hand, are a little tougher. We just don’t lay down and let anybody walk all over us. However, I believe that the fact that we don’t just do anything and everything, has a reason and will continue to have purpose in our lives.
We have grown strong because we’ve been through so much. Slavery, racism, and segregation. Black women had to be strong for their families first, and for themselves second. So excccuuuuse us for not bowing down and doing whatever for you. We take care of ourselves. It’s how we get through.
And for those who were raised by single mothers…you REALLY shouldn’t be complaining. The strength of your mother is the thing that got you through. The strength can be a blessing and a curse. But everything has two sides to it: a blessing and a curse.
So the point is…stop complaining. Don’t embarrass us in front of the world and don’t make us feel bad about our strength. Geez, we have the whole world telling us being a black girl and a black woman isn’t cool and isn’t “what’s hot.”
Help us out. Support us…and maybe the rest of the world will too.
I’m not gonna give a big fancy introduction to my opinions like I usually do, just going to get straight to it.
Baracka Flocka Flame bothered me because it made our president look bad. I’m protective of Obama more than I am of any previous president and probably more than I will be of any future president. Why? Because he’s black. Simple. I mean conservative white people already say enough bad stuff about him, now we making him look bad?
The real reason I was bothered by the video is because, people are stupid and ignorant. Conservative people might see that video and think that’s really our President. You know how they are. They’ll believe anything bad about somebody they don’t like. They’ll eventually figure it out but…
Ugh. It just makes us look bad. We already make ourselves look bad enough. Don’t make our President look bad too.
It’s okay to parody someone. Parodies are good. Parodies are funny but only when they’re based on truth. What was true about the Baracka Flocka Flame video? What was the point the guy was trying to make? I didn’t see it.
But we just looooove ignorant stuff. Even at the expense of making ourselves look bad to the rest of the world.
My roommate and were talking this morning over breakfast and somehow landed on the topic of how people get married while undergraduates in college. Seniors, juniors, and maybe even some sophomores tying the knot while still trying to obtain their undergraduate degree. We are both sophomores in college and are both in committed relationships. We also don’t see an end coming to these relationships soon. Still, we wouldn’t dare get married while undergraduates. It’s just crazy to even think about.
We attend a predominantly white university, so it is no surprise that most of these marriages happen between white students, but this topic brought us to the conclusion that there are a lot of differences between the requirements of marriage between white families and black families. Now this isn’t to say that all white people in college are getting married before they graduate and that black students never get married while in college but I think it really all boils down to the fact that black families are all about support.
Typically, before a woman will even date a man in the black community he needs to have a job, a car, and not too many kids. For college students, those requirements are lowered a little because we know that times is hard, but we at least want to know that you’re in school and that you have potential for getting a good job, and a car.
Also, it is common courtesy that a man asks a girl’s father for permission to marry her before he proposes. I know that in black families, when a man asks a girls father for permission to marry her, it is absolutely necessary that the man be able to support his daughter. If you are barely supporting yourself with your minimum wage college job, it is not possible that you will be able to support your self and your new wife.
I feel like maybe in white families the girls parent’s might help out…ya kno, until the guy finishes school or something. Idk…I’ll finish this later.